Life Balance is a funny thing. Some days you feel great, highly productive at work, mom of the year, and everything falls into place...hold onto that feeling when it comes because it is rare. Truth is, most days have you scrambling to do it all. Usually if you are excelling in one area you are feeling guilty or sometimes even shameful about others. This is why people will say life balance is impossible.
It doesn't have to be that way.
I believe life balance is possible if you go into it with the right expectations of what it is. Here is how i define life balance: Consistent action to grow stronger in all 8 areas of your life. The 8 categories I am referring to are faith, family, marriage, health , career, finances, home and friends/fun.
Once upon a time my life was so out of balance, my world was caving in on me. My sole focus was my career and everything else suffered. I closed off relationships, didn't take care of my health and worse part, I was too tired to play and be present with my kids. By the grace of God I was able to learn practical steps that brought me out of living that life. I have been working on these processes for a couple of years and as a result, I have more clarity and peace in my life.
I want to help you have t he same, so I created 7 key points that helped me create more balance for my life. If your like me, you want results and you want them now. That's why I turned these 7 principles into a one week challenge-7 days to Take Back Balance.
Let's look at these 7 principles and how they work to create balance for you. In the free challenge every day is themed to one of these principles. I give you worksheets, and action items so you can easily take the practical steps to get your life back, so you can design the life you want to love.
We loose so much power when we cast blame for how our life is. Our life is a result of the choices we make. There are always going to be outside influences and events in our lives that we have no control over. We can however take personal accountability for how we respond to it. Personal accountability also involves the excuses and justifications we make. Coming clean and being brutally honest with ourselves about the truth of our situation is powerful. Always remember: you are ridiculously in charge of your life an it can be anything you want it to be.
Change of Focus
Because you are living your life, it can be hard to objectively look at your life. Your too close to see your life. You only see what's right in front of your face. It's like your standing to close to a painting. Now, it's human nature to be drawn to the things that are not right, are broken, or need to be improved. God has given you grace, maybe you should give yourself some? Step back and count your blessings! Change your focus to what you are grateful for. As you are taking a step back, it is also important that you look at how close your life is to God. Sometimes that pulling feeling of unbalance we experience is God trying to pull us near him.
Setting Goals For Balanced Living
Setting goals is a popular subject now a days. Did you know that most of time when you set goals and work to achieve them you are actually taking your life further out of balance? Think about it this way. Draw out a tire and list all 8 categories of your life around it. If you set a goal to grow in only one area, it is like you are putting air in just that area. That's going to make for a bumpy ride and you will feel the imbalance. The same is true for your life. You really need to make sure that you are setting goals for all areas of your life and following a system that allows you to work on and grow towards all those goals while keeping your sanity. It can be done, promise!
Think I am talking about setting boundaries with the people that demand things from you? Guess again. What I am referring to is setting boundaries for yourself. After all, that is the only person that you have complete control over. When you want to have more balance in your life it is important that you get really clear on what that means for you. This clarity will help you to say "no" when things come up that look really great, but really take you down a path that is away from your goals. This clarity give you discernment to make decisions that serve you living the life that you want to build. This is real power towards building a balanced, purpose driven life.
Think about the role of the coach. Someone to encourage you, help you stay on the path toward your goals and help you navigate tough situations. It is key that you surround yourself with people that can give you a perspective that you otherwise would not see. But you can have the best people in your corner, even pay to hire coaches to help you out and still struggle if you don't have the right conversations happening in your head. Use kind words and learn techniques that will help you help yourself. There are some really helpful tips for this and action items that you can apply in the 7 day challenge.
Truth talk moment, you can be doing awesome in everything else but if you don't use your time wisely, you will struggle to get to where you want to go. The biggest enemy to balanced living is poor time management. You have more time in a day, week, month than you realize. With that said, there are going to be days that are out of balance. Use a bigger frame of reference, like week or month. From using some of the amazing tech tools that are out there, to being more intentional, to old school just getting stuff done: You Can Do It! Looking for some of these examples? Check out this blog post: http://yourliferocks.com/godly-woman/leadership/family/productive/
Be intentional. Think about your goals. Think about the week ahead and the obstacles that are coming your way and prepare for success. When you are feeling out of balance, chances are you are living in a place of reaction. This happens to the best of us! Give yourself grace! You can prepare a ton and still be taken by surprise by life. The key is to be proactive about your goals and what obstacles might come up so that when you react, you are doing it in a way that still serves the balanced life you trying to build.
So there you have it! 7 things key things to focus on to bring more balance, and peace into your life. Want to put these 7 steps into action? Really, that is where you will see a change. Not in reading about these 7 things but in applying them to your life. Sign up for the free 7 day Take Back Life Balance Challenge. Every day for 7 days you will get action items, and encouragement delivered right to your email box. We are also there to support you in our Facebook Group. Join us! Click here to join the challenge and click here to join the Facebook Community.
Now, because I am all about surprises and giving and doing more.....here is a bonus. Number 8. God. It's simple. If you want to have peace, sanity, and balance in your life. Put your trust in Jesus. The road won't always be smooth, but you will never be on the journey alone. When you seek him first, your goals will align with what he desires for your life. When you follow him he will bless you for the greater good of his plan. He will make your paths straight. This is the principle that overtakes all the rest. If you are going to apply just one....take the bonus.
Looking forward to seeing you build a life that rocks!